"Left turn only after complete stop". I read those words attached to a stop sign today. I was reminded of how often, especially when I am focused on getting to my destination, that I make only "rolling stops". A girlfriend of mine was recently given a ticket when stop in a residential area for only coming to a rolling stop at a stop sign. It was mid morning and there was hardly any traffic, except for the police officer on patrol. It seemed harmless, as she was on her way to a very important meeting, and she was running late. There was no one else in the area, so it seemed OK just to "pressing into" getting to her meeting on time. But she got stopped, pulled over, given a ticket and was still even later for her appointment.
Check this out:
Rolling Stop Law & Legal Definition
A rolling stop is a term used in traffic law to refer to when a vehicle fails to come to a complete stop. A complete stop is when there is no forward momentum and the needle on the speedometer is at 0. In a rolling stop, the car wheels are still in motion and the car is moving at less than 5 m.p.h. Failing to come to a complete stop at a stop sign is a traffic violation governed by state laws, which vary by state. The longer the stop, the more discernable it is to the naked eye, giving a motorist a better chance of avoiding a ticket.
Personal Application
When it comes to the repercussion of incest;(incest being defined as sexual abuse with a family member or someone close enough to be considered as family); and the scars of abortion, rolling stops can be lethal to the soul. I can personally speak of the confusion I experienced because of the pain of the incest that clouded my judgement in many areas. I know first hand of choices made from a wounded spirit, because of not taking time out to think about or rationally deal with the root issues of the things I was facing. I justified many of my actions by keeping "busy". It hurt too bad to think about the pain of the incest abuse my uncle caused me and what it had done to my self-esteem. Later in life, as a repercussion of the scars (effects)of the incest abuse, I could not (did not want to) take time out to deal with the thoughts of what it really meant to have given my baby (babies)"up"; to admit that what I had done was to end the cycle of their lives, which really is the same as murder. A malicious act on my part? Malicious being defined as "Having the nature of or resulting from malice; deliberately harmful; spiteful". No! And yet the results were the same; hidden, undealt with guilt and shame. The painful thoughts of "what could have been" not being addressed.
Was my girlfriend aiming to violate the traffic laws and score a ticket? of course not. But her actions brought the ticket forth just the same. Her rolling stop, not taking time to cease her forward momentum for even a friction of a minute, resulted in her having to pay money she would have much preferred to spend else where.
Be IN Courage!
This article is written to encourage you to come to a full and complete STOP and take a few minutes out to really think about and consider the things that you have buried alive, deep inside of you. Anything buried produces some type of growth, if not properly processed to remain underground. The burial of a loved one after passing is done so in a casket, after the proper processing of the deceased body. A bad memory or a negative reaction to a hurt or neglected pain, not properly processed, tends to resurface, often at inappropriate times, in unexplainable ways; depression, crying spells, eating disorders, substance abuse, anxiety, anger, confusion, despair, loneliness, unable to forget, regret, hopelessness, or grief. I truly believe that "The pain of understanding and healing is far less than the pain of denial and despair".
There is hope!
RESTORE!!! EMPOWER!!! PREVENT!!!
RESTORE!!!
Restore the hope of someone lost in the confusion of the pain of sexual abuse by sharing the positiveness of what you have learned from your experience along with the following resources.
RESOURCES
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children =
http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PublicHomeServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US
Survivors Of Incest Anonymous=
http://www.siawso.org/
Childhelp USA The National Children's Alliance Hopehouse=
http://www.hopehousemaine.com/
Hotlines:
Suicide Hotline: 1.800.SUICIDE
All States' Reporting: 1.800.FYI.3366
National Survivors of Domestic Violence: 1.800.799.SAFE
National Family Violence: 1.800.222.2000
Incest Awareness Foundation: 1.888.547.3222
Incest Hotline: 1.212.227.3000
Incest Survivors Anonymous: 1.800.386.5599
Child Abuse Childhelp: 1.800.422.4453
Youth Crisis Hotline: 1.800.448.4663
Child Sexual Abuse Stop It Now: 1.888.773.8368
Family Violence National Domestic Violence: 1.800.799.7233
Piedmont Women's Center 24 Hour Hopeline - 1. 864.233.3823
Also, be informed about where sex offenders live by contacting FAMILY WATCHDOG
http://www.familywatchdog.us/
(note: you can put the name of your street (with or without adding your house number) and it will bring the information up).
EMPOWER!!!
Empower yourself by renewing your strength in every area of your life: Physically, Spiritually, Mentally and Financially. Take the time for your yearly medical and dental check-up and mammogram.
Take quality time EVERYDAY to get quiet in God's presence to hear His voice. Yes, remember to pray, but just as vital, take time to really hear His voice. Open your Bible and hear what the Holy Spirit is saying as you read the Scriptures.
Take time to study and just as important, take time to laugh and have fun. BALANCE is the key. Take the Motivation DNA test at http://www.getmotivatedbook.com/Test.aspx, to find personal strategies on overcoming any obstacles, achieve any goal and accelerate your success with Motivation DNA. It's free and you will get immediate results (with no strings or obligation attached).
Take time to review your current financial situation. If stressed by overwhelming challenges, process through it. Go and get wise counsel on how to make the needed adjustments to take you forward to your desired goals. OPEN AND READ YOUR MAIL even if you are challenged by your budget. TALK TO YOUR CREDITORS. YOU ARE IN CONTROL! YOU ARE have rights and regardless of the status, you are due respect. You give what you get, so be respectful, and YOU control the peaceful flow of the conversations.
Join us for our quarterly Celebrate You! Celebration Workshop, a support meeting style workshop. The next workshop will be held in October. Stay tuned for date and location.
Our Annual Annihilating Incest Conference will equip you with information and tools that will help you stop the generational cycles of this senseless crime. Join us in November for this empowering event.
Take TIME FOR YOU! and retreat with us, as we join: 1) True Identity Retreat, October 2-4, 2009 in Cleveland, Georgia (Contact http://www.trueidentityministries.org/ or call 770.865.3655. 2) Balancing Life's Demands Women's Retreat in Callaway Garden, October 16-18, 2009. (Contact http://www.mylonn.com/ or call 770. 945.1736 for more information and call 404-681-6071 only to register with the discount offered to Elegant Doves participants).
Take part in our 8 week Incest Recovery Tele-class beginning every Monday evening from October 19, 2009 through December 7, 2009, from 8:30pm -10:00pm. This is a step by step focus, with personal application of tools to heal the wounds of incest and childhood sexual abuse.
PREVENT!!!
Equip yourself with knowledge! Allow us to share the 7 Steps to Protect Our Children through the Darkness to Light's Stewards of Children Training. It is a must for every one of us on the planet. We, as the adults, are responsible for keeping our children safe. (call 404- 681-6071 or email me for more information - elegantlin@aol.com)
Allow us to help you with Abortion Recovery Assistance, processing through the wounds of post abortion healing through our 12 week Bible Study or our condensed 4 day weekend retreat. Email me for more information.
YOU ARE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR!! You have the power to heal. Tap into your power of choice to live life more abundantly - healed and in wholeness, turning your scars into stars.
Celebrate You! and Be IN Courage.
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